It doesn’t matter if we’ve experienced rejection once, twice or a hundred times. Each time it happens, it does a number on our self-confidence and doesn’t make it any easier to find the best way to handle rejection.
The truth is rejection can hurt you, and there’s nothing wrong with feeling hurt. But hiding away from opportunities to avoid feeling the pain of rejection is more damaging in the long-term. What we need to learn is how to better handle rejection so that it doesn’t affect our self-confidence and it doesn’t keep us from pursuing our goals and dreams.
If you can learn to deal with rejection in a healthy manner, it can make you a stronger person and you can grow to be more resilient when truly tough obstacles come your way.
5 tips on the best way to handle rejection
Here are five ways to not let rejection affect your self-confidence:
1 Approach Rejection Objectively
Detach your emotions when handling rejection. Getting in touch with your emotion is important but when it comes to dealing with rejection, it should be kept at bay and don’t allow it to rule your thoughts. When someone rejects you for a job or a grant, remember that it’s not a personal slight to your self-worth. There are several reasons a person may reject you:
- They think there is a better option
- They don’t believe you fit what they’re looking for
- They don’t believe you meet all their standards
- They simply don’t like you
Looking at these reasons with emotional lenses, they appear harsh and make you feel bad about yourself, affecting your confidence. But if you look at it objectively, you can understand that this is simply one person’s reason, they have a right to their opinion but that it doesn’t necessarily define you so it’s easier to brush it off and move forward.
Not taking it personally also allows you to take rejection in a constructive manner by working on improving yourself the next time you pursue something else.
2 Don’t Dwell on Rejection
Sometimes we spend so much time looking at closed door that we don’t notice when another one opens. Don’t spend so much time worrying about rejection. This only stops you from pursuing new avenues and opportunities. Keep your head focused on the game, deal with rejection and keep going forward. Don’t let it stop you from working on your goals.
3 Use Rejection to Drive You to Improve Your Skills
Oftentimes we are rejected because of skills and experience. Use rejection as a motivation to better yourself. Work on your skills by practicing and learning the latest trends. Look to successful people who’ve had a lot more experience and take notes of what they’re doing and have done to get where they are.
And even if your skills aren’t the reason for your rejection, it’s always good practice to consistently learn and improve yourself.
4 Don’t Dismiss People’s Reasons for Rejecting You
Over the last decade, the popularity of the word hater has exponentially increased. It’s so easy to dismiss people as simply haters when they reject you. But this is not a good way of handling rejection. It’s possible that some rejections come down to a personality clash or someone just outright not liking you but most of the time it isn’t the case.
When you ignore or dismiss legitimate criticism, you’re missing out on an opportunity to learn and grow as a professional and as a person. Listen to criticism with an objective ear. The person who has rejected you might be able to share wisdom that can allow you to further polish your skills and talents and help you improve.
5 Study Your Rejection to Know What Works Best
So you’ve been rejected a couple of times. You’ve also probably experienced succeeding a number of times as well. Try to compare what you did in both situations and determine what made one reject you while the other was met with success. Use this information to further improve yourself so that you’re more prepared for the next job interview or school application. Arming yourself with this knowledge can also give you a boost of confidence when you pursue your next project.
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